Positive Thinking [28:04m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download Intermezzo from Cavalleria Rusticana: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download O Mio Babbino Caro from Gianni Schicci by Puccini: Play Now | Play in Popup | DownloadWhat’s wrong with thinking positively? Could be a lot. Let’s take another look at the "positive psychology" movement in this episode of The Psych Files podcast. I’ll share some ideas for bringing about more positive events in your life, talk about social comparison theory, and then discuss how important "negative" - that is sad - feelings are in our lives. Those are moments not to run from, but to embrace.
Resources For This Episode
- Newsweek article (January 28, 2008): "The How To of Leading a Happy Life" by Jennifer Barrett. Summarizing the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky in The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want
- Prevention magazine (February, 2008): “Joy - How to make it last” by Siri Carpenter. Summarizing the work of Fred Bryant, Ph.D.
- Time magazine article (February 11, 2008): “Happiness: Enough Already” Sharon Begley
- Sharon Begley’s Blog
- Against Happiness: In Praise of Melancholy
- Chronicle of Higher Education (January 18, 2008) "In Praise of Melancholy", by Eric Wilson, Ph.D.
Social Comparison Theory
- Definition: whenever we are uncertain about ourselves, our skills, our talents, etc., we tend to compare ourselves to other people. Typically we compare to people similar to ourselves in some way (same age, similar background, belong to the same group for example). But we can make upward and downward comparison.
- Upward Comparison: you compare your self to someone who is either older, more experienced, more talented, more well off, etc. Comparisons of this type will probably make you feel worse about yourself.
- Downward Comparison: the opposite of the above: you compare yourself to someone who is less fortunate than you. These comparisons will probably remind you of how fortunate you are and will make you feel better about yourself.
Sad Songs mentioned in this episode
- Played at the end of the episode: the "Intermezzo" from the opera Cavaleria Rusticana by Mascagni. You can learn more about Mascagni and hear another version of the Intermezzo on Erik Bruchez’s excellent Mascagni website.
- "O Mio Babbino Caro" from the opera Gianni Schicchi by Puccini
- The Moonlight Sonata by Beethovan
- Tristesse by Chopin
- Lakme Duet (also called the Flower Duet) from the opera Lakme by Delibes
- Claire de Lune by Debussey
- Feel free to suggest other beautiful sad songs in your comments to this post!
