Ep 214: Your Adolescence is Giving Me A Mid-Life Crisis!

We all know that adolescence is a time of change and often a tough time for the teen. But what about the parent? Today's parents are often older than years ago, and today's parents are sometimes going through their own self-examination, their own doubts, their own exploration. What happens when you bring those two together? Sometimes a lot of yelling frankly. In this episode I talk about the changes going on in the adolescent and in the older parent and how parents can avoid the yelling and the accusations that only undermine what the teen is going through and how parents can step back … [Read more...]

Adele Faber on Parenting

I took some of my favorite quotes from my interview with Adele Faber and put them on SoundCloud. She's really amazing. Such great advice. A neighbor recently asked me for a recommendation on a parenting book and I had to say to her, "If you only read one book on parenting..." it really does have to be How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. My copy is heavily underlined and I find myself thinking about Adele's words over and over again. … [Read more...]

Episode 136: Adele Faber Interview on Parenting (Part 2)

In part 2 of my interview with Adele Faber, co-author along with Elaine Mazlish of "How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk" we talk about what do do when you've got nothing left emotionally to give to your children, how to handle foul language, how to problem solve with your children, and being authentic with your children about own feelings. Finally, Adele gives her opinion on whether or not we need to be tougher with our children, especially when they are acting out. What is our major goal as parents? ..... "To produce children who are, among other things, brilliant, … [Read more...]

Episode 135: Adele Faber Interview on Parenting (Part 1)

Are you familiar with Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish's classic book "How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk"? You should be. It's not just for parents. The ideas in this book and in their other books should be required reading for all of us, but especially for parents, therapists and anyone interested in what we can do to better communicate with each other. I think you will be as charmed as I was listening to Adele and I encourage you to listen to part 2 of this interview. We want to put an end to talk that wounds the spirit, we … [Read more...]

Episode 103: Raising Children – Interview with Author Jamie Raser

Having trouble raising your children? Join the crowd. There are lots of parenting books, but here's one you should know about: "Raising Children You Can Live With" by Jamie Raser. He has an approach to parenting that is not about "picking your battles", but about staying out of battles altogether and talking with your child in a way that doesn't lead to shouting, screaming and anger. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Listen to Jamie Raser talk about his ideas in this episode of The Psych Files. Parenting is not a series of "techniques" or … [Read more...]

Episode 77: Lost at School – An Interview with Ross Green Part 2

Still looking for alternatives to time out? If you're a teacher, childcare worker, or anyone who works with kids you may be frustrated that for some children time out just doesn't work. In fact, for some kids time out may actually be a reward because of the popularity it provides for them from other kids. If you're worried that time out is not helping, and that the child is headed down a road of developing a personal identity that includes "rebel" or "troublemaker" and the end of that road can only be jail, then you need to listen to Dr. Ross Green talk about Collaborative … [Read more...]

Episode 49: Classroom Management – An Interview with Dr. Ross Green part 2

In this episode I continue the interview on Collaborative Problem Solving in the classroom with Dr. Ross Green, author of The Explosive Child. As I stated in the previous episode, there are a variety of classroom management techniques, all designed to help solve the issue of how to discipline children who are having behavioral problems. I think you'll find that Dr. Green's approach makes a lot of sense and it can be implemented in the classroom as well as at home. A fascinating interview. [adsenseyu2] Here again are the resources on this topic that I think you'll find … [Read more...]

Episode 48: Classroom Management – An Interview with Dr. Ross Green

Classroom management techniques - there are a lot of strategies for dealing with behavior problems in the classroom. It's time to add Collaborative Problem Solving to your toolkit. Learn an alternative to traditional classroom discipline techniques like timeout or sending the child to the principal. A recent Time magazine article entitled "How to Make Great Teachers" mentions that in a 2001 survey of teachers, 44% listed "student behavior problems" as the reason they left the profession. What can be done? [adsenseyu2] In this episode I interview Dr. Ross Green, author of The … [Read more...]

Episode 34: Timeout Revisited – Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 2

Here's the second part of my episode on alternatives to timeout. In this part of the interview, Dr. Ablon discusses Plan B in more detail. How do you work with your child to come up with solutions that satisfy both your and his or her needs? Resources For Timeout Revisited Make sure to check out the ThinkKids website for more information on collaborative problem solving. There's some interesting information in Wikipedia on the topic of timeout. Related Episodes In case you didn't catch part 1 of this episode on alternatives to timeout, here's the link: Part 1 of … [Read more...]

Episode 33: Timeout Revisited – Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 1

In part of 1 of this interview Dr. J. Stuart Ablon we talk those children for whom timeout sometimes does not work. What are alternatives to timeout then? Listen in and learn about the Collaborative Problem Solving approach. [adsenseyu2] Resources on Parenting and Timeout Make sure to go to the Think Kids website for more information about collaborative problem solving. The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children Treating Explosive Kids: The Collaborative Problem-Solving … [Read more...]