Episode 34: Timeout Revisited - Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 2
Here’s the second part of my episode on alternatives to timeout. In this part of the interview, Dr. Ablon discusses Plan B in more detail. How do you work with your child to come up with solutions that satisfy both your and his or her needs?
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Resources For Timeout Revisited
Make sure to check out the ThinkKids website for more information on collaborative problem solving.
Research this topic further on Technorati: behavior management
There’s some interesting information in Wikipedia on the topic of timeout.
Related Episodes
In case you didn’t catch part 1 of this episode on alternatives to timeout, here’s the link:
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Part 1 of the interview on timeout revisited.
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Continue reading this entry»Episode 33: Timeout Revisited - Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 1
In part of 1 of this interview Dr. J. Stuart Ablon we talk those children for whom timeout sometimes does not work. What’s your alternative then? Listen in and learn about the Collaborative Problem Solving approach.
Listen to this episode to learn about alternatives to time out.
Resources For This Episode
- Make sure to go to the Think Kids website for more information about collaborative problem solving.
- The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
- Treating Explosive Kids: The Collaborative Problem-Solving Approach
Relevent Previous Episodes on The Psych Files
- Make sure to listen to the episode entitled Is Timeout Really Effective?
- An early episode of The Psych Files covers the basics of rewards and punishments.
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Be sure to listen part 2 of this interview with Stuart Ablon called “Timeout Revisited”: dealing with challenging kids:
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Part 2 of the interview on timeout revisited.
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Continue reading this entry»Episode 28: Is “Time Out” Really Effective?
Everybody advocates the use of time out over forms of punishments like spankings, but how exactly do you administer time out in a way that is effective? Could we be doing it all wrong? Is time out even something we should be doing at all? Join me as I explore this topic.
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Resources and Links for this Episode
- Listen to Jane Nelson (author of Positive Discipline) talk about her views on time out and spanking. This is an mp3 file from episode 28 of the Focusing on Solutions podcast.
- Here is the link to the Positive Discipline website, and here is the link to their podcast.
- Here is a link to the book Positive Time-Out: And Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in the Home and the Classroom
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- Here’s the link to 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 (123 Magic)
- Here’s the link to Smart Love
- If time out has not worked for you, consider this book: The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
Quotes of Interest
From Positive Time Out (Nelson):
- Where did we ever get the idea that we have to make children feel bad in order for to act good?
From Smart Love (Pieper and Pieper):
- We believe that discipline makes children miserable without offering them any genuine benefit, because punishing children whose behavior is out of control actually interferes with their ability to learn self governance. We advocate the use of loving regulation, a way for parents to guide their children away from missteps without adding to their unhappiness or interfering with their development of inner happiness.
- The best way to respond to a child’s harmful or dangerous behavior is to stop it without imposing added unpleasantness.
- Parents are frequently advised to tell their child that her behavior makes them angry. But children cannot distinguish between their parent’s anger at the behavior and their parent’s feelings about them. When children repeatedly experience their parents as being angry at them, they copy their parents and develop needs to feel angry at themselves.
- Unfortunately, most people don’t recognize that many of the vulnerabilities and out of control behaviors that children engage in are both temporary and appropriate for their age (you can’t expect children to act like adults).
The Explosive Child:
These authors discuss children whom they refer to as “inflexible-explosive”: children who find it difficult to “go with the flow”. These children get “locked up” and don’t handle change easily. Also, typical disciplinary procedures such as time-out only lead to a deterioration of their condition and probably a “melt-down”. The authors encourage a more problem solving approach to working with such children. I encourage you to take a look at two web sites related to their work:
- Find out more about their approach at the Center for Collaborate Problem Solving.
- The authors have established a non-profit institute called “Think Kids” and I encourage you to visit this site.
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Be sure to listen to the Interview with Stuart Ablon called “Timeout Revisited”: dealing with challenging kids:
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Continue reading this entry»Episode #2: Rewards and Punishments
Today’s Question: “Do you believe in spanking children to get to them to behave?”
That’s the question addressed in today’s podcast called “Rewards and Punishments”. We’ll look at this issue, along with a few others in this podcast. Join host Michael Britt in examining this controversial issue and you’ll also learn how to tell the difference between B.F. Skinner’s concepts of positive and negative reinforcement and positive and negative punishment (“positive punishment”? - you’ll have to tune in to figure that one out).
Click to hear episode 2 on Rewards and Punishments.
Related Episodes
Since this podcast I’ve done a number of episodes that address the effectiveness of rewards, punishment, spanking, and timeout on a child’s behavior. If you’re interested in learning more about this topic, check out these episodes:
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Episode 28 called Is Timeout Really Effective?
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Episode 33 on Timeout Revisited: Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 1
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Episode 34, called Timeout Revisited: Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 2.
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3D Concept Map
I made a crazy 3D version of the concepts in this concept map, which you can play with. Let me know what you think. Click on the link below.
Rewards and Punishments 3D Map
I’ve been reading a couple excellent books on the topic of alternative ways to get children to behave (alternatives to spankings that is). The approach is called Positive Discipline. You can find it at Amazon. Excellent advice for both parents and teachers. Positive Discipline
Another one of Jane Nelson’s books on positive discipline techniques has to do with effective ways to do timeout. Check out her book, also on Amazon.Positive Time-Out: And Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in the Home and the Classroom
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