Episode 34: Timeout Revisited – Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 2

Here’s the second part of my episode on alternatives to timeout. In this part of the interview, Dr. Ablon discusses Plan B in more detail. How do you work with your child to come up with solutions that satisfy both your and his or her needs?


Resources For Timeout Revisited

Related Episodes

In case you didn’t catch part 1 of this episode on alternatives to timeout, here’s the link:

  • Part 1 of the interview on timeout revisited.


Episode 33: Timeout Revisited – Dealing with Challenging Kids Part 1

In part of 1 of this interview Dr. J. Stuart Ablon we talk those children for whom timeout sometimes does not work. What are alternatives to timeout then? Listen in and learn about the Collaborative Problem Solving approach.

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Resources on Parenting and Timeout

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Relevent Previous Episodes on The Psych Files

Related Episodes

Be sure to listen part 2 of this interview with Stuart Ablon called “Timeout Revisited”: dealing with challenging kids:

  • Part 2 of the interview on timeout revisited.

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Episode 28: Is “Time Out” Really Effective?

Everybody advocates the use of time out over forms of punishments like spankings, but how exactly do you administer time out in a way that is effective? Could we be doing it all wrong? Is time out even something we should be doing at all? Join me as I explore this topic.
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Resources and Links for this Episode

Quotes of Interest

From Positive Time Out (Nelson):

  • Where did we ever get the idea that we have to make children feel bad in order for them to act good?

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From Smart Love (Pieper and Pieper):

  • We believe that discipline makes children miserable without offering them any genuine benefit, because punishing children whose behavior is out of control actually interferes with their ability to learn self governance. We advocate the use of loving regulation, a way for parents to guide their children away from missteps without adding to their unhappiness or interfering with their development of inner happiness.
  • The best way to respond to a child’s harmful or dangerous behavior is to stop it without imposing added unpleasantness.
  • Parents are frequently advised to tell their child that her behavior makes them angry. But children cannot distinguish between their parent’s anger at the behavior and their parent’s feelings about them. When children repeatedly experience their parents as being angry at them, they copy their parents and develop needs to feel angry at themselves.
  • Unfortunately, most people don’t recognize that many of the vulnerabilities and out of control behaviors that children engage in are both temporary and appropriate for their age (you can’t expect children to act like adults).

The Explosive Child:

These authors discuss children whom they refer to as “inflexible-explosive”: children who find it difficult to “go with the flow”. These children get “locked up” and don’t handle change easily. Also, typical disciplinary procedures such as time-out only lead to a deterioration of their condition and probably a “melt-down”. The authors encourage a more problem solving approach to working with such children. I encourage you to take a look at two web sites related to their work:

Related Episodes

Be sure to listen to the Interview with Stuart Ablon called “Timeout Revisited”: dealing with challenging kids:

  • Part 1 of the interview on timeout revisited.

  • Part 2 of the interview on timeout revisited.

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